Drone-Speak in the Dating World

So Amaya was recently talking to this dude who said a few things which stuck out to me.  At first, I was going to do a post on the phrase he used to describe himself - "picky and judgmental" which, in my humble experience, is generally code for, "I like women with 'perfect' bodies" - but I changed my mind.  He said something else which stuck out to me even more:

"Don't treat me like someone from your past."

Okay, so rewind...a long, long time ago, when Sex and the City was still airing new eps, there was an episode in which Carrie Bradshaw examined how women seek the "lesson" in failed relationships.  I think she was implying that women simply look for those lessons as a way to feel better about ourselves when things go south.  You know...that whole everything-happens-for-a-reason philosophy.

First of all, let me say that I am a firm believer that shit really does happen for a reason...if the person in question is smart enough to see it.  The saying "hindsight is 20/20" exists for a reason.  Some of you have looked over the past 10-20 years of your lives, wiped your brow and said, "Whew; so glad I dodged that bullet."  I do that almost every day these days.  There is a reason why we weren't meant to be with that guy or that girl we met in high school or that study buddy in college, at the bar, at our last job, on vacation - whatever.  There's a reason the timing never seemed right and circumstances kept pushing us apart.


Ladies of the Club, We Have Illicit Blasian Love

I've been keeping tabs on TNT's Murder in the First and in the most recent episode, "Family Matters", I found out that Nicole Ari Parker is playing a married woman, and Ian Anthony Dale is her side boo.

You just gotta wonder how that all got started.

"Start licking" (she actually says that).

Busted (not by her husband though; we haven't met him yet).


Year One Complete

A/N:  We discussed this in part in a previous post.  I think this is an opportunity to continue the discussion in regards to sistahs living abroad.

Also crossposted on Musings in the Dark, Black Girl Nerds, and The Blasian Narrative.

I just finished my first year abroad.  I would say that I can’t believe that a year has passed, but that wouldn’t be true.  I can believe it.  I’ve just experienced it.  I’d like to share a little bit with you.

What’s it like in this part of the world?  Well, I can tell you this: I get stared at A LOT, and the natives sneak pictures of me on the sly.  Sometimes, the stares come with smiles, other times, it’s just outright shock.  This is typical for a lot of the older Chinese, as many of them may never have laid eyes on a black person before.  I always smile and say hello, because if I am their first, I need it to be a positive experience. 


Count the (Race) Fail

You'd think I'd know by now not to click on random videos on YouTube, but I just can't seem to help myself.  Curiosity got the better of me in this instance, and I got exactly what I deserved.  Because I really should have known better.  I was flabbergasted, offended and morbidly curious all at the same time.

While I can appreciate the attempt to discuss race and interracial dating in an honest, straightforward manner, I don't see what's helpful or thought-provoking about this particular discussion.  It seems to want to present itself as an open-minded conversation about what can admittedly be a touchy subject, but it really comes off as uninformative and a bit ridiculous. They don't really say anything substantive unless you include the stereotypes about black men being well-endowed, Asian women being submissive wives, using the word "exotic" to describe non-white people, the hotness of Latin lovers, and a somewhat creepy fixation on AW/WM pairings.  If I could insert a "mind blown" gif here, I would.

And I couldn't help but notice that no black folks were included in this discussion.  But then again, maybe it's best that they weren't.  Because this conversation is filled with all kinds of nope. 

We definitely need to have discussions about race in this country.  Many, many discussions.  But not like this.

*Cross-posted on The Blasian Narrative


SoapMuffin.com featured in "Colorless World" Magazine

Congrats to our favorite Business Sister, the mastermind behind SoapMuffin.com!  She recently landed an interview in Issue #3 of Colorless World magazine in which she gets to talk about organic aesthetics and vegan culture.

And did y'all know she makes feminine hygiene products????
A trip to the doctor's office will cost you $150.00 plus co-pay. My herbal set will give you the relief you need at a fraction of the cost. (Source)


The things you find on the internet

Here I was, casually wondering about daily life in a country like, say, Russia.  I found something even better.

And here's the exact opposite situation:

That's right. Medically trained professionals from Rwanda who graduated with honors can't find decent jobs. But athletes from the US get the royal welcome.

See Also

Racism in Russia
Being African is an insult in Russia??
(AFRICAN) Black women in Russia


Bitchfest: Monsieur Nov's "A Deux Doigts"

An Anonymous commenter shared this on the Blasian Narrative.  For those of you not knowing, Monsieur Nov is a French-Vietnamese singer who specializes in neo-soul and R &B, and who usually features sistahs in his videos.  All that good stuff being said, he's had...some issues every now and again with some of his decisions.

But this is his latest release.  What do you ladies think?  (Lyrics and translation here, courtesy of Myra).


Blasianism V: The Monsieur Nov Edition